We have heard of the stigma that comes with a
lady making a first move on a man and with the
African mentality, a lady would rather wait and
hope that that guy that gives her goose pimples
would just walk up to her and woo her but most
times,this never happens and when the man who
does not catch her fancy comes her way,she will
bark at him so ferociously as if the guy is
responsible for her "timidity"
I have actually sat down to reason deeply about
this issue and i have come to a solid conclusion
that judging from the happenings of today,it will
be a wise thing for a lady to stop waiting and
hoping that one guy she wants will just read her
mind and walk up to her and i would like you all
to see 5 realistic reasons why you should go for
that man if you truly want him rather than wait
and pray he comes your way.
1.Many men are confused and don't know what
they want: Yes many guys are so confused and
this has nothing to do with immaturity. Each day, a
guy sees different ladies of different personalities,
colors,curves and beauty and just when they are
thinking about dating a lady, they see another one
that looks even more alluring to him and on and
on he gets so lost as to which lady to go for even
when he is not sure which one will say yes to him
but when you make the first move,he is likely to
let down his guards and settle for you. Guys love
daring ladies and we find them amusing
2.Takes an extra effort to woo a lady: Don't be
deceived when you see a dude and you start
thinking he has all the ladies in the world after
him because in actual fact, many guys battle with
complex issues teven the sweet looking ones. No
matter how sweet looking a man is, he usually
plans his moves and they know there is a
possibility of you turning them down but maybe
just a sweet flirtatious glance or sweet smile from
you to him will make him more relaxed and feel
more confident to approach you and pour out
those lyrics.
3.Most responsible guys are shy or don't have
that time to woo a lady: The bottom line is that
in most cases,those bold and daring guys that
walk up to you are playboys but the more
reliable,responsible and purposeful guys are shy
or don't even know how to woo a lady or are too
devoted to their career to do that so if you see
that sweet looking dude,just say hi to him and if
he does not catch the drift,he is on his own.
4.Hard to get syndrome: Some ladies still think
playing hard to get is in vogue..I am one guy that
will not bother you again if you give me any
strong NO body language. I believe if you want
me as a friend even if not as a date for a start at
least be friendly with me and don't give me this
appalling attitude. Honestly there are too many
ladies out there for one girl to dey form hard to
get and if i am a lady, i would rather prove hard
to forget rather than hard to get.Many men don't
even bother these days wooing ladies because
they have that mindset that these ladies will end
up forming and are easily drawn towards the ones
that show them a green light.
5.Every lady deserves the man she desires: As
guys,we are cool with the fact that we know what
we want in our lady as regards her physical
appearance and when we see such that meets up,
we simply summon courage and walk up to her
but in the case of a lady,it is expected of her to
just sit and wait in hope that that guy walks up to
her and it is considered improper for her to
express her desire for that guy...how partial and
wicked can this ever get?. I believe that What's
sauce for the goose should also be sauce for the
gander and i believe it is unfair for ladies to just
cry in silence when they see a man they so desire
and who might just desire them with hope that he
makes the first move.
6.Making the first move on a guy is never the
same as throwing yourself sheepishly at him: I
have heard many people use these erroneous
remarks that when a lady makes a first move on
a guy then the guy will not value her or will see
her as sheep...you never jam babe that will make
the first move and will comport herself so well
that the guy will have a rethink and value her
even more than he ever imagined. When you
make a first move on a guy,it does not mean you
will start monkeying over him or be at his beck
and call and yes you can make a first move on a
guy and still deny him sex wella so ladies must
understand that whoring over a guy is a total
different ball game and making a first move is
another.
7.Economy crunch: In-fact in Nigeria, this has
become number one deterrent as many guys have
lost hope of ever getting a girl to truly desire
them because to these,they will always believe its
about money and not love. You will be amazed
that the guy you are so much into is also deeply
attracted to you but he has been thinking about
his pocket and asking himself how on earth will
he be able to meet up with "your standard"
especially if you are the high class babe. But if you
just show that guy a little encouragement,he just
might overcome this thought and make that
move.
The truth is that making a first move on a man
can be done tactically and does not really mean
throwing yourself at him or opening your legs for
him to take undo advantage of you but you can
go for the man you want and still maintain your
dignity and he will respect you all the way.
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